Families Wellbeing Support

You are encouraged to look after your own mental fitness and positive mindset whenever possible. Sleep hygiene, food hygiene, regular exercise or any activity away from work that you enjoy can help improve self-esteem and create a positive mindset, therefore maintaining or enhancing your mental fitness.  

NHS Self Help has some self-care booklets which can be used for yourself or to pass on to others.  

It can sometimes be really difficult to talk about your feelings with friends or family. It's common to feel worried about upsetting people you care about, and feel nervous about what people will think, or how it might affect your relationships. 

You may feel more comfortable opening up to friends, family, veterans, other than professionals, or you may find it easier to approach a professional (such as your doctor) first. There's no right or wrong way round. But the people closest to us can often be a valuable source of support. 

Whenever you feel ready, these tips might help you start the conversation: 

•  Find a method of communication that feels right for you. This might be a face-to-face conversation, or you might find it easier to talk on the phone or write down how you feel in a letter. 
• Find a suitable time and place. There may not be a 'good' time, but it can help if you're somewhere quiet and comfortable and are unlikely to be disturbed for a while. 
•  Practice what you want to say. You could do this in your head or make some notes. Phrases such as "I've not been feeling like myself lately" or "I'm finding it hard to cope at the moment" might provide a starting point. 
• Offer them relevant information and examples. If you've found a useful description in a book or online or seen someone on television or in a film saying something that feels right to you, you could use this to help explain what you're experiencing. 
• Be honest and open. It can sometimes feel uncomfortable sharing something so personal but explaining how your feelings are affecting your life may help others to understand. 
• Suggest things they could do to help. This might just be listening and offering emotional support – or there may be practical help you need.  
• Don't expect too much from one conversation. Understanding mental health problems can take time, and some people may be shocked or react badly at first. It's 

As a parent or carer, it can be really worrying to see a child or young person going through a difficult time, but it’s important to address your concerns and help them to get help as soon as possible.

Growing up as a forces child can present many pressures – separation, moving home, losing friends along with the same pressures a child would undergo such as exam stress, bereavement, bullying, body image, first relationships, – and in some cases, young people just need someone to chat things through with and discuss their worries.

Having this conversation, no matter how small the problem might be, is essential to ensuring that young people grow up equipped to manage and understand their own mental health.

It is important to give them some time to process what you've told them. But, if possible, plan to come back to the conversation with them again, to give you more opportunities to explain what you're going through

However, it’s also important to recognise when professional help is needed.  Making an appointment with RN FPS  or your GP is a good place to start.  

Engaging with RN FPS will allow to assess the situation and inform your partner/their unit even if deployed should they deem it necessary to do so. You are advised not to inform your deployed family member yourself via family gram/email or text. This may cause undue concern for that person, in an environment that they are not able to provide support from. This may lead to them also suffering from a form of low mental health issue.

The following guide from young minds provides information on how to start a conversation as a parent, a young person or someone who works with young people.

Starting a conversation- young minds

School Support in Helensburgh 

Early years and childcare support for Argyll and Bute

Earl years support

Emer Flett - schools pupil advisor Email: emer.flett@argyll-bute.gov.uk

UK government early years and childcare support 

Childcare Choices | 30 Hours Free Childcare, Tax-Free Childcare and More | Help with Costs | GOV.UK

Family Support - Home Start ( Portsmouth, Plymouth, Helensburgh and around the UK) Home-Start UK

If you are worried about your serving family member, firstly try and talk to them about the issue and see how you can support them. 

Should you feel that they need further help; you must initially ask them to seek it through the support available to them via our Submariners  Wellbeing page.

Unless in a crisis situation or a there is a genuine worry of harm to them or others; the service person, must ask for help themselves.

If there is a major concern for their or anyone else’s welfare, you can contact ( OPS admin, DNBO, 5^th watch officer, RN FPS, Support crew); waiting on conformation of which one COSM wants to utilise before including the number.

If you feel you have exhausted the other avenues or that your mental fitness is now affecting your everyday life and hampering your life, then you need to seek professional medical help/advice. You should make an appointment with a doctor or NHS 24 on 111.

Naval Children’s Charity navalchildrenscharity.org.uk

The Naval Children’s Charity has been helping Naval Children since 1825, for nearly 200 years. If you serve or have served in the Naval Service (Royal Navy, Royal Marines, QARNNS, WRNS, Reserves or Royal Fleet Auxiliary) and you have a child/children up to and including the age of 25 we may be able to help you.

SSAFA ssafa.org.uk

We understand the unique demands of service life, whether it’s on UK soil or overseas. Support is available for people at any stage in their military career; from the youngest recruit to the oldest veteran – no one’s service is ever forgotten. We have more than 4,000 trained SSAFA volunteers who provide personalised, face-to-face support to those in their local area.

NFF Relate  nff.org.uk/relate/

Relationship counselling, family counselling, young people’s counselling, and sex therapy.

Forces Children’s Charity forceschildrenscotland.org.uk

Today, we help children and young people from serving, reservist and veteran families across Scotland grow in confidence, develop new skills and gain valuable experiences by co-producing impactful projects and services to support mental health and wellbeing, education and learning and putting their unique experiences on the radar of civilian audiences.

Little Troopers littletroopers.net

Little Troopers is a registered charity supporting all military children who have parent(s) serving in our British Armed Forces, regular or reserve.

Home Start

Home-Start is a local community network of trained volunteers and expert support helping families with young children through their challenging times. We are there for parents when they need us the most because childhood can’t wait.

Home-Start UK

Kooth TSF - Kooth

Children's online Mental Health Service

Pupil Support (Helensburgh)

Emer Flett pupil and school's advisor

emer.flett@argyll-bute.gov.uk

Basics of resilience Course

Free online course by DNA definitive, supported by the submarine family, Benefits - The Submarine Family. You must be a member to access this course.